Well, marriage is a very important thing in everyone’s life. The most toughest part is to choose the best partner for their entire life…. According to Indian culture the girls/boys would say that their parents will choose for them… Yeah… every parents do choose only the best for their children…!! But the changes have started striking all around…!!
An inter-faith marriage is a union in which the two spouses follow different religious traditions. This can take many forms. For example, the partners may be:
1. A member of a specific religion and a follower of an non-theistic ethical system (e.g. Judaism and Humanism).
2. From two religions that are totally different – as in one Western and one Eastern faith (e.g. Christianity and Taoism).
3. From two religions that have some points of similarity – as in two Abrahamic religions. These are religions “of the Book” which share Abraham as a Patriarch. (e.g. Christianity and Islam).
4. From different major divisions within the same religion (e.g. Roman Catholicism and Protestantism).
5. From different wings within the same religion (e.g. one Evangelical and one liberal or mainline Christian)
6. From different traditions within the same wing of the same religion (e.g. two conservative denominations: Assemblies of God and Southern Baptist.
All marriages and other lifetime partnerships are mixed relationships! Most involve persons of two genders: one man and one woman. Sometimes the two spouses are of different religions, nationalities, races, ethnic groups, economic levels, etc. The more significant differences in background that a couple has, the greater are the challenges that need to be resolved before and during marriage. Sometimes their efforts to reach a consensus can draw the couple closer together. With other couples, their differences will drive them apart.
With the changing of times, we are getting more and more open and accepting our fellow human beings precisely on their personal qualities. It’s not any more a Hindu or a Muslim or a White or a Black so to say… well to some extent.
Inter-religious and Inter-racial marriages are getting equally acceptable and common. However, to be a success, any marriage requires two people who are respecting, responsible, honest and sincere. When two people meet in matrimony, they should respect each other, especially so if it’s an inter-religion marriage. It is very important to remember that all the religions teach the same basic goodness…….if we get through the present time-line we can see the graph of inter-religious marriages rising up…… Why is this happening so..???
Well, when i asked a couple they said, “we married each other because they were fond of each other…. moreover even if their parents choose a partner for them it will take time to know each other completely… but in our case we are known to each other for the past few years……!! “
Well that’s true… it will surely take sometime to understand each other… But isn’t that the thrill of marriage…??? But in the other hand to marry a person whom we know well each other is better than ever…..!! I think that’s why the inter-religious marriages rise up daily…!!
Even if the parents protest against the marriage the couples would surely get married because they do earn to a great extent…!! But the main question is that ” Is their life successful..?? “…. Well there are many successful married couples….. ” Dimple and Anupam” , “SRK and Gauri” and many others in our local areas too…. may be many among our family too… But aren’t failures too….?????
Well now a days many support inter-religious marriages… When it comes to these types of marriages another main question showing up is that ” Which religion would their children follow…?? “… There is a constant hustle in the parents that the child follows his/her religion. Isn’t it more important that a child becomes a good human being? This can be taught to him by adopting the goodness of both the religions. Here, it’s very important for parents not to be selfish. We should focus on teaching the child good values which everyone would agree is the basis of every single religion. There have been instances, when adults abandon the religion given to them by their parents and adopt some other religion that they are convinced is better. I think we should let our children decide what religion they would like to adopt when they are capable of deciding for themselves.
Another main problem was the process of conversion from one religion to another…..Lemme ask one-thing….. ” Is life meant for religion or religion meant for life…??? “
Well now a days, many religious communities support inter-religious marriages even without conversion…. For example, inter-religious marriages do take place at Churches if the groom is a christian…. The best example is the marriage of the Malayalam cine star Jagathy’s daughter…..!!
Well in my personal view I do support inter-religion marriage because I will be marrying the person whom I know well in all aspects and the other knows me well in all aspects…..!!.. Moreover my view has always been that the question of religion is often side-tracked in a marriage. Marriage is not about religion. There are bigger problems to marriage than religion. I am talking about marriage of two people who are really in love with a very practical outlook towards life. So if we dare to live together shouldn’t our parents support us…>???? Why should they protest….???? I think this quote will surely suit for the protesting parents… “…unity within diversity adds a richness and beauty to marriage and to life.” Rev. Tom Chulak, Unitarian-Universalist minister.
On other-hand, it is loyal and best to marry a partner which our parents select….. Because there would be no split in the relationships….. But in most cases these relations do come and bind together later even if a split occurs….!!
So is it good to marry a girl of our like (main from other religion) and take the risks….. or is it better to marry a partner which our parents select.>>???? What should we say…??? Yes/ No…>????
if the society and the people are matured enough to take and accept the inter religion marriages then its good else it will b an experimenting !!!
I would never say a yes or support to inter religious marriage……like society says its the children who will suffer…..its true…..
Inter-religious marriages are very common nowadays. That clearly shows that a lot of love affairs get wings to fly – even without the support form their parents/relatives. That’s a good news for all lovers. We are moving to western culture. Later we can move to the extreme end. Have a date, try it out, if it works marry. Later if you finds it was wrong, simply divorce. Isn’t that cool?
huh…. Bull shit…
human beings are social animals. We need our society. We need out family. We need our parents, siblings, relatives… We need all of them to live. Isnt it a hell to live without them? without their support?
There may be stories of great love without anyone’s support, living a great life by themselves. But such stories are rare. To enjoy our life fully, we need all of our relatives with us. So, in my opinion, our marriage must be supported by our parents and relatives.
If you love someone who believes in another religion, then it is your responsibility to convince them how much you love him/her and get their support.
I support inter-religious marriages if it is true love. And they wont mind taking the extra effort to get the support from the family instead of going away from their families.
Deciding the religion of kids is not a big deal. The lovers would have thought about it earlier in their relationship and they will already have an answer. In my opinion, a religion will really help the kids to gain moral values. Not everything can be taught by parents.
I have seen many inter-religious relationships in my family. And they all are going fine. My family supports them. Of course there was some problems in the initial days…. but now, everything is fine. And I am glad to say that it will happen in my relationship also.
Marriage is the bond between HEARTS not with RELIGION…Also it is a real life situation which demands SHARING,RESPECT,ADJUSTMENTS & SACRIFICE for each other(thats what every religion teaches)…
Its the HEARTS which play a crucial role in ones life …Religion is only a guide line for one’s life to live a good life…
In this sense Inter -religious marriages are GOOD if they are done between HEARTS than on RELIGION & DANGEROUS ,If vice versa….
Inter religious marriage are ok if it is unconditional. if the bride and the groom are ok with it, then wat is the problem.
But it shud b unconditional, like no cast conversions….
I say yes… iv seen lotza inter religious marriages in my life… all of them have been successful…. n all of em had full support from parents…
i would say YES.In my view one who loves a person not on the basis of his/her caste r religion..
Inter caste marriage needs a lot of guts for both parties..else it would end in total failure,if ur parents are a bit stubborn..im a victim of it..she didnt have enuf guts..the only factor is guts and “no matter what may happen” kind of love..everything else is from the society..we cant cross a river if we flow with it..we got to put some strength and cut the flow across..finally we are all humans..